Do you feel anxious in social situations? It’s quite common for people to feel nervous or even self-conscious in certain situations such as interviewing for a new job or talking in front of a large group of people. However, feeling anxious socially can involve intense fear, which can be very disruptive to your life to the extent that you start to avoid various social situations and may stop going out altogether. In my latest article, Becoming Aware explains what social awkwardness, social phobia and shyness are and looks at the social situations that can trigger anxiety. We also delve into the signs that signify you are feeling anxious socially as well as looking at ways to find the courage to socialise.
Social awkwardness, social phobia and shyness explained
Social awkwardness is when you feel uncomfortable and out of place in social situations.
If you have a social phobia, you get very anxious when you are with other people, usually because you worry that:
· They may be critical of you
· You may do something embarrassing
Shyness is the tendency to feel awkward, worried, or tense during social encounters, especially with unfamiliar people.
Social situations that can trigger anxiety
· Meeting new people
· Attending parties or other social gatherings
· Eating or drinking in public
· Difficulty in going into restaurants and shops
· Going on a date
· Talking with authority figures or prominent people
· Making small talk
· Dislike of being introduced to people
Signs of feeling anxious socially
· Worried you are going to be judged or scrutinised
· Feelings that others will think badly about you and you will be compared to others
· Thinking that people won’t like you
· Fear of meeting new people
Because you are worried, you may start blushing, sweating or appear to be incompetent. You may also shake and tremble and your voice may falter. Other physical symptoms may include a fast heartbeat, trouble catching your breath, dizziness or light-headedness and may be accompanied by an upset stomach or nausea.
Ways to find courage to socialise
· Remember your value
· Think about your own needs
· Challenge your thoughts
· Give yourself time
· Practice small talk
· Make an effort to make eye contact
· Try to relax and be yourself
· Take a few deep breaths
How can Becoming Aware help if you are feeling anxious about socialising?
I hope that you have found my ways to find the courage to socialise helpful and they will aid you in staying calm in social situations. Irrespective of how shy you are, you can certainly learn to be comfortable in social situations to get your life back on track. It should be remembered that anxiety is a normal human emotion that lets you know that you are out of your comfort zone. It is a temporary way to feel and not who you are. It is based in the future and the fear of what’s to come. However, If you feel you are struggling with social situations including meeting new people and going to events and parties, it is important to get help as soon as possible. For professional support, please contact me, Karen on 07766 427966 for a free without obligation chat or email karen@becomingaware.co.uk
