My article this month is inspired by the book by Genevieve Davis, Magic Words and How To Use Them. As a nation, we are very good at complaining, we are always mentioning the weather, which is either too hot or cold or too wet and windy. You could say that complaining is just creating stuff you don’t like. I’m not saying, you shouldn’t ever complain, as it really is OK as it may be justified and necessary. However, it’s important to do it in the right way. Make sure it doesn’t turn into a negative experience. All complaining ever does is make you feel worse, just like a victim. Becoming Aware, the Mental & Emotional Wellbeing Specialists based in East Sussex in our latest blog is giving you an insight into ways to avoid, reduce your levels of complaining or even stop it completely.
It has become acceptable to complain
Complaining is now in the fabric of our society. The weather as I mentioned earlier is always a hot topic. So how about thinking about it differently? It’s something that we cannot change and we really should be used to it by now. However, it has become an acceptable form of complaining. But, stating something that is obvious, does it actually make you feel better?
Ways to reduce complaining
· Focus on the good and the positives of a story
· Tell it as you want it to be
· Life follows the story you tell - not the other way around
· Words nudge the thoughts but thoughts nudge reality
· Let everything be OK before it is OK
· Focus on what you do want, not what you don’t
· Commit yourself to a new way of being
Create a situation that you want
Change your story first, by creating the situation you want and the change will follow. Focus on the positives of every situation especially when it’s a challenging time. Complaining, criticising or being negative is like abusing yourself and messing up your own life. You are the one that suffers and every complaint takes you down even more.
Challenge yourself not to complain for an hour and longer
You will find it isn’t easy to stop complaining as it comes naturally to us as a society. So, why not challenge yourself to go an hour, a day then a week without complaining? The more you do it, the easier it gets. It might initially feel like an effort or rather forced, like you’re not being real, but don’t let that stop you. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Over time you’ll stop noticing the little things you used to complain about and only notice the good things that life has to offer.
How can Becoming Aware help you with stopping complaining?
If we generate our own reality, what type of reality are we creating when we constantly complain, especially when it’s about things that we cannot or will not change. That’s just a waste of time & energy! The task I’ve set of trying to reduce how often you complain won’t be easy - trust me I’ve tried - but the more you stick with it and ask yourself if it is actually worth complaining, the better you will feel. As a Mental & Emotional Wellbeing Specialist, I can help you sort through any issues you may have and help you to look at them differently and certainly objectively. Call me on 07766 427966 for a free without obligation chat or email karen@becomingaware.co.uk
Just stop complaining!
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change
