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You Can’t Change What’s Happened BUT....You Can Change How You Feel About It

Things are happening all the time during our everyday lives and of course many of the things are positive occurrences and make us feel happy, contented, excited and even satisfied and smug. But there are other times when things happen and they really knock us off track. Our emotions and feelings can range from being sad, scared, shocked, worried, hurt or we might even feel guilty and ashamed. In these situations we feel trapped and we often can’t forgive or forget the people who have caused this to happen and sometimes we can’t forgive ourselves.

What Has Happened Has Happened

The first and most important thing to realise is that, “What has happened, has happened!” We can’t go back in time and change it and we can’t do anything about it. The second thing is that no amount of worrying, anger, fear, regret or anxiety is going to change it. It’s all too common for the “What If” scenario to come into play – could I have done something differently or said something else?

What Can Knock Us Off Track?

· Relationships

· Weight

· Finances

· Grief – loss

· Arguments

· Experiences

· Failures

We Feel Justified By The Guilt, Pain And Anger

Our rational and conscious mind knows that the clock can’t be turned back but it’s not this that keeps us trapped, it’s our emotions and our inability to stop us feeling as we do and we feel justified by our emotional pain as we believe we deserve to feel that guilt, pain and anger. And with our emotions stuck, there is the ‘piggy-back’ effect as things seem to get bigger and bigger and worse and worse.

Find A Release And Liberate Yourselves

So why don’t we look at the situation rationally? Why don’t we address how we are feeling? Why don’t we change our perception of the situation? You really have suffered enough and these feeling shouldn’t stay with us for the rest of our lives. You need a release, to let go of the emotions that are restricting you and you will find that by doing so, you liberate yourself!

How To Change

· Be aware of the situation

· Consciously change your thoughts

· Allow yourself to change

· Read self-development books and do the exercises

· Visit a therapist

· Learn to forgive


I have been working with clients for many years and I do believe everything happens for a reason. Although it may be hard to accept, everything really has happened exactly the way it was meant to and if it didn’t happen as it should, you’ll get your chance again.

There are no mistakes, just lessons in life!

What To Do Next

If you feel that you need to seek the help of a professional, Karen Hoad from Becoming Aware is a qualified and experienced Emotional Healing & Wellbeing Practitioner. She has vast experience in helping people who are locked in things that have happened to them and who can’t move on. Karen can guide you and give help and support with regard to the past, present and future. Call Karen on 07766 427966 for a free without obligation chat or email

You could soon stop being your own worst enemy and start being your new best friend!

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