It seems that what we believe, we actually make our reality. Our beliefs become so engrained that we assume that they must be true and we behave or react accordingly. However, what happens if these beliefs aren’t true? If we stay with our current beliefs, our lives will continue to be the same. Therefore, our beliefs need to change in order to make changes in our lives. All aspects of our life are influenced by our beliefs including money, relationships, business, our way of parenting and life in general.
What Are Limiting Beliefs?
These beliefs are actually known as “limiting beliefs” which means that we have many ideas and thoughts that actually hold us back and ultimately stop us from attaining success in all elements of our lives. Often they are about the world in general and ourselves. They manifest themselves in feelings of, I can’t, I do or I don’t, I must or I must not, and I am and I am not.
You Can Or Can’t Have It All
This is the first of a series of blogs about limiting beliefs from Becoming Aware where we look at this topic in general before examining different areas of our lives and how what we believe will shape our lives unless we do something about changing these inhibiting ideas. In most cases people are not even aware that their beliefs are actually holding them back. One such example would be that if we believe that “you can’t have it all” in terms of a relationship, this will undoubtedly filter through and affect our home life, financial affairs and business. Alternatively, if we believe, “you can have it all”, this will probably lead to success in all areas.
A Survey Reflects Our Limiting Beliefs
Becoming Aware recently conducted a survey, interviewing 60 people from various networking groups and found the following percentages of people had these beliefs to some extent:
You can’t have it all 100%
Life is hard 95%
Money doesn’t grow on trees 95%
I haven’t got time 90%
I’m not a businesswoman 87%
I can’t lose weight 75%
I’m unlucky in love 57%
I don’t deserve to be happy 53%
Is It Possible To Change Our Beliefs?
Are our beliefs set in stone? Let’s first examine where and when these beliefs are formed. Coming into the world, you have no beliefs but it has been found that the first 5 years are the most important; these are the formative years when our observations and experiences start to establish our beliefs. We then continue to pick them up as we grow through our parents, teachers, peers or friends, colleagues, society and from our own views and observations of the world and ourselves. If life is a struggle with little money to go round, beliefs will start to form that life will always be like this.
These beliefs will have a profound impact on your life and if you think you are not good enough or capable of doing something, you more than likely won’t be able to do these things. These beliefs are now hindering you and getting in the way of any progress and success you could and should be making in all aspects of your life.
How To Change These Limiting Beliefs
· Realise your negative beliefs
· Listen to what you are saying in situations
· Put a positive spin on a negative statement
· Make sure it’s realistic
· Question why you believe certain things
Conclusion
Often limiting beliefs become habits. It’s all too easy to say, “I can’t afford it” and once this is established and you get into the habit of making this response, the more automatic it becomes. Your beliefs will come true and the only way the outcomes can be different is if you change them.
What To Do Next
At Becoming Aware, we work with people to change their beliefs so that they can start living the lives that they want to. Karen Hoad is a qualified and experienced Emotional Healing & Wellbeing Practitioner who will help you to overcome your limiting beliefs. Call Karen on 07766 427966 for a without obligation chat or email karen@becomingaware.co.uk