A relationship with another person is meant to enhance your life, isn’t it? It’s meant to make you happy and be fun because you have met somebody that you can do things with and share your life with. However, it’s not always like that! Are you in a relationship that is actually holding you back and hindering you so that you are finding that your life isn’t going the way you want it to? Or have you been in a relationship that has ended and you can’t seem to get over it and move on? Here we look at the signs that may be indicative of a relationship, past or present that could be holding you back.
A Current Relationship
· You don’t see your friends and family anymore
· Your career is on hold
· Your health is suffering
· You accommodate what they want to do and not what you want to do
· Your partner is critical of you and resentful of your achievements
· Your partner doesn’t support you and you feel judged
· You actually feel unhappy and sad
Should You Stay Or Should You Go?
Here, it’s worth considering the ingredients for a healthy relationship. Do you have kindness, empathy, warmth, fun, laughter and connection with your partner? Time should not only be enjoyed when you are together but when you are apart and of course without the support of your partner you will be unable to spend time with friends and family or progress your career. Is your relationship worth saving, can it be worked on or should you be moving on?
A Past Relationship
· You constantly compare your current partner with your ex
· You refuse to look for another partner
· You think of your ex virtually every minute of the day
· You aren’t putting any effort into your new relationship
· You are too judgemental
· You talk, dream and fantasise about your ex
· You just cannot forget the past
Live For The Present And Not For The Past!
In order to move on, you have to accept that this past relationship has ended and that there really is no chance of getting back with them. Thinking about the past will only make you feel sad and miserable. If you are in another relationship, you may even know that you are with a better person but it still doesn’t stop you comparing and judging your new partner. The ex seems to be in your thoughts virtually every minute of the day and you talk about them with friends and family and just about anyone who will listen.
For some people, the pain is too much and they can’t move on or even contemplate another relationship. Naturally, there will be memories because good and bad times were shared together. However, that chapter is closed and it is time to start the next.
What To Do Next
Karen Hoad is a qualified and experienced Emotional Healing & Wellbeing Practitioner who will help you overcome your negative feelings and emotions by finding the root cause in order to stop past and present relationship issues holding you back. Call Karen on 07766 427966 for a without obligation chat or email karen@becomingaware.co.uk